What would the world be like without a woman??? Goodness me what a nasty thought! None of us would exist because no one would have availed themselves to bear us in their wombs and eventually bring us to this would. An existence of a human being is more than enough to understand that the world would be a nasty place without a woman. When we look at ourselves in the mirror, we are illuminated by a reflection of a woman.
But as women we don’t acknowledge and appreciate ourselves as much as we should. We continuously underestimate ourselves, our abilities, our qualities and our contribution to society. We don’t feel like we are enough, we constantly feel like a fraud and this is a symptom of an underlying problem which is as a result of what the society perceives a woman to be. Now the solution to this problem is acknowledging and appreciating the power we hold within through self-love.
I want to emphasis self-love in a deeper context, so I am going to be very direct on this one. YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF so much that when you see or think of another woman, you won’t feel the need to compare yourself to her, because you have a deeper understanding that you are unique, special, brilliant and beautiful.
Always remember that there is no other woman like you, and that you bring something new to the world. For that same reason the world is a better place because you are here. Love your body, embrace it and be delighted to live in it as it has been given to you to for the rest of your life. Approve of who you are always, and remember that society will always judge you based on its norms. Don’t ever wait for any validation, you need to constantly commend of who you are, and the rest of the world will catch up later. Do not only focus on being a slaying queen. Don’t be afraid to also be an aspiring intellectual queen, because one day you will not be as youthful, your body will not be as sexy and hot in societal terms, but you will be smarter, wiser and more intelligent with a mind filled with great ideas to make this world a better place!!
The biological clock fallacy is something someone came up with to bring upon constant worry onto us women; don’t we have enough to deal with already?? Age is not just a number, its also a word. Everything happens exactly the way that it is supposed to happen. Don’t worry yourself about not having it all together, the right guy, marriage and kids. They will all come to you when the time is right. If you rush any of these, you will end up settling.
When you choose a partner let it be someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects, or even better, wants to do his share in the house. And remember that your partner should never complete you, but rather complement who you are. People tend check out anytime, and for this reason it is eminent to learn financial and emotional independence. Don’t ever wait for the time when the only option you have is to be independent. You don’t owe anyone any explanation for loving yourself, if you ever feel disrespected and unloved in a relationship, remember the pure love you have for yourself. That gives you enough reason to get out. And for that, you will always have something to bounce back on as you got your own back.
Great things happen when women come together and support one common goal.
“If there ever comes a time when the women of the world come together purely and simply for the benefit of mankind, it will be a force such as the world has never known” – Matthew Arnold
When you climb that ladder drop it so that other women can use the same one to get to the top. Always open your door for other queens and fix their tiaras when you see fit. This world will indeed be a better place with Sea community of women banding together for the purpose of growth and prosperity.
Women naturally nurture everyone around them, but fail to take care of themselves first. You need to ensure that you are well taken care of, and continuously fill yourself up. You can’t pour out from an empty cup, it must be overflowing before you can pour out to the rest of the world
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